Let’s imagine for a second there is a huge, new breakthrough discovery of an ancient artifact that reveals the secret to finding happiness, and a marriage that will last a lifetime.
It’s all over the news. Your friends are tweeting about it. Fox News, CNN and even Ellen is doing interviews with everyone involved.
The discovery is an ancient document with clear, uncomplicated instructions on how we should handle sex, written to a culture much like ours today, and spoken by the one who made our bodies and every other BODY around us.
Can you imagine the buzz created with this type of unveiling!?
Good news guys, This ancient document has already been discovered! I have a copy! So do you! In fact this information was so valued and sacred that thousands of people have been persecuted and died to protect these exceptionally necessary and vital words.
This is big stuff….
Are you ready?
The Corinthian people were having sex with whoever, whenever, and pretending it was all fun and games (I think this was the ancient version of the bachelor). In their time and day, they even had “temple prostitutes.” I’m not even kidding. I can’t even imagine going to church back in this day and age.
So this guy named Paul, wrote a letter, inspired by God, to the Corinthian people that was so revolutionary, and so foreign to their culture, they knew it must be true.
I hope you’re sitting down for this, here are the words from this ancient document:
“I am allowed to do anything.” Yes; but not everything is good for you.
Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should you take your body, which is part of Christ, and join it [sexually to someone you hardly know?]
Don’t you know that sex joins two people together? The scripture says quite plainly, “The two will become one body.” Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. (1 Corinthians 6: 12-18)
Did this ancient letter actually say that no other sin affects us like sex does? Is the letter telling us there is something more to this sex thing than just recreational play between two consenting adults?
NO WAY! Surely 50 Shades of Grey can’t be wrong!
Ok let’s forget this Bible mumbo Jumbo and look to Science for a second. Maybe they also have a break through discovery that will say something more current.
What science says about sex:
According to “Sex and the Brain” Psychologist Mark Turrell explains,
“There are three main neurohormones that are released during sex. Dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin. These chemicals work together to give us pleasure and bond us together. Oxytocin in particular, tells the brain, “Once connected, stay connected. Sex bonds us at a relational, physical and chemical level. It is a powerful force”
Gosh, that’s weird, it’s almost as if God knew the science and emotional bond behind his very creation!
No, no, no, I’m quite sure the writers of Cosmopolitan magazine know more about sex than God. Maybe a PhD in the in area of relationships would know best. Let’s see what they have to say.
What Therapist say about sex:
“In the counseling office, individuals rarely if ever weep scalding tears about any other sense of loss like they do for a sexual relationship when it ends. There are soul ties that bind two partners together in unseen ways and there is a sense that part of you has been stolen. There is a hole in your soul where the connection was ripped from you.” – Dr. Waylon Ward Professional Couselor, author and speaker
“20 years as a counselor has told me nothing has the ability degrade, cheapen, wound. and rob a sense of who you are as does sex outside of its original design.” -anonymous therapist
These scientist and counselors make an interesting point….what did that ancient document say again?
The two shall become one
In the very beginning, God said on Adam and Eve’s wedding day,
“The two are united into one (Genesis 2:24).”
God who made every cell in our body, God who created hormones, God who crafted the very idea of Dopamine, Serotonin, and Oxytocin. He knew how deeply sex can bond, He also knew the depth to which it would scar if shared with just anyone. So God gave us sex in marriage. True intimacy, true vulnerability, naked, beautiful, cherishing and honoring love as Adam looked at Eve as the only woman in the world. Eve saw Adam as the only man in the world.
This was the original design.
I believe this is still the design today. After a couple is married, the two become one and see each other as the only man or the only woman in the whole world, because, in their eyes, they are.
Consider that your heavenly father knows how to care for you better than the movies and the magazines. Take a moment to fathom that God gave you the gift of your sexuality and wants you to enjoy it, but not with just anyone.
What decisions to you need to make today to guard your eyes and your heart for your future spouse?