You and me baby
In the late 90’s the bloodhound gang (yes that is their name) had a one hit wonder that claimed: “You and me baby ain’t nothing but mammals so let’s do it like they do on the discovery channel.”
Maybe the wise theologians that are the bloodhound gang have a point. Maybe we are just like the wild animals that roam the African Sahara and sex is nothing more than just a physical act. It’s fun, it’s enjoyable, it’s what our culture teaches, and what is on TV shows.
If the media tells us sex is no-strings-attached fun, and the music tells us we are just animals. Then certainly we should all just shack up for pleasure and enjoy ourselves with whomever we can get our hands on. Sexual partners can be viewed as just an object for our own pleasures and we don’t have to let those pesky emotions get in the way because we are all just mammals after all. Yes, thank you bloodhound gang (and sex and the city, and the bachelor, and Cosmopolitan) for this free-range advice to have sex with whomever and whenever. Wow, I feel so free now!
Anyone who has shared intimacy with another human knows there is something more than just physical. We don’t know how to put words to it but deep down we all know there is something to this thing we call sex.
We are not “just mammals”
I have seen mammals eat their own vomit, sniff their friend’s butts, roll around on dead animals, and poop in front of anyone and everyone. If this is your thing then have fun, but please let us shake hands instead of smell butts if we meet.
Biologist have pointed to “the human spirit” as the remarkable and unexplainable difference between man and human.
“The human spirit allows man to reason, analyze and create. We are able to greatly exceed the capability of animals because of this special, unique, spiritual component” (source)
Humans are different than other animals physically, emotionally, sexually, physiologically, chemically and by design. If “you and me baby” were simply mammals we would act as simple as these animals. But if you are reading this…there is more to you than simply the cells that make up your body.
On the last day of creation, God said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness” (Genesis 1:26). He finished His work with a “personal touch.” God formed man from the dust and gave him life by sharing His own breath (Genesis 2:7). Accordingly, man is unique among all God’s creations, having both a material body and an immaterial spirit. In other words, we were made to resemble God himself.
The highlight of his creation. The only being able to reason, to choose, and the only presence on the earth bearing the thumbprint of the creator himself. The angels were applauding in the background astonished at the creativity and detail he made the organs work together, the lungs to filter air, and this unexplainable “human spirit” which is the very image of God. I imagine God taking a step back, stroking his beard, staring at his masterpiece. He knew one thing was missing.
“It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him. Genesis 2:18
God Created Sex
God invented sex. Have you ever thought about that? Once upon a time, there was no sex and then God said, “I have an idea.” He made all the animals to procreate yet with humans, again the only creation with a spirit, he gave the gift of sex as something to ENJOY.
Can you imagine?? The creator who had just days before made galaxies even our 21st-century telescopes have yet to discover. Trees 200 feet tall and seeds to reproduce them. The entire ecosystem to feed on itself, grow and continue to reproduce. And the grand finale, the fireworks at the end of the performance is the man, woman relationship.
He presented the woman as an extraordinary gift to Adam. Literally, hand stitched together to be the perfect match for Adam. Her form was beautiful and feminine. His form was strong and masculine. They needed each other. In fact, they were literally fashioned and brought into existence to be together.
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
I did my homework on this verse. There is a lot of commentary and people way smarter than me that have a lot to say about it. But what I found most interesting is the Hebrew word used when the “two become one” The Hebrew word is e·ḥāḏ and it literally translates to bonding together at the deepest level. I think the best analogy is cement. Yes cement, as in never-to-be-separated, never-to-be-taken-apart cement. Cement is made to be bound forever. Breaking it up requires a jackhammer, a hard had, possibly a bulldozer and a LOT of hard work. The pieces bound together are never left the same and there is always a mess left behind.
Sounds a lot like many a failed relationship don’t you think?
But e·ḥāḏ , or cement is a beautiful thing in marriage. It bonds the two together for better or worse. Cement can take rain, wind, and storms and still hold together tightly. Cement says, life isn’t always going to be perfect but I’m with you NO MATTER WHAT.
We have been told sex is wrong or dirty but I think we have simply confused it. God created this gift as the cement in marriage. Two humans, completely exposed and vulnerable offering their love and respect to each other in a physical act of cementing their hearts one to another.
Gosh, it’s as if the creator of sex knows how it works better than we do?? Maybe our culture encouraging us “we are just mammals” here for a good time actually leads to a big hot confused heartsick discombobulated mess??
But the writers of 50 shades of gray can’t be wrong??
Maybe, just maybe, the creator of this very thing we call sex knows best. Maybe the one who designed your body, mind, and spirit wants better for you than what the movies are saying. And maybe it’s even possible that God knows better than the bloodhound gang (shocking but true).
The man-woman relationship is the only relationship on earth designed to give us a glimpse of how much God loves us. Your spouse is designed to show you God’s love and you are to do the same. That is a no comparison, love you as you are, and look at you as the only man or woman in the world kind of love…. just like Adam and Eve.
Instead of a world run by the theology of the bloodhound gang. I argue sharing sex with someone who vows to honor you, fight for you, and fiercely protect the intimacy of this gift called sex, for the rest of your life, is a much better plan.